My Awakening.......My Story

What i Am........The change that change my life

Dear Friends, the day when i lost my father, it was real awakening to my life. it was hard day to me......as the time passed, grievance got more intense....and a village boy shines in international level. how i took my fathers words to change the world around me......I tried...i got....the most important was to try. Now with 4 international, two national award, World recognition, 3 underprivilaged students in international and 5 students in national post.....and most important learned way of happy life...and now source of inspiration. its me.......Dr. Prafulla.

       

There comes a time in your life when you finally get it... When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out- ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world from a new perspective. This is your awakening.

I realize that that day, it is time to stop hoping and waiting for something, or someone, to change or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. I come to terms with the fact that there aren’t always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with me. Then a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

So i begin making my way through the “reality of today” rather than holding out for the “promise of tomorrow.” I realize that much of who i am, and the way i navigate through life is, in great part, a result of all the social conditioning I've received over the course of a lifetime. And i begin to sift through all the nonsense i was taught about:

- how i should look and how much i should weigh
- what i should wear and where i should shop
- where i should live or what type of car i should drive
- whom i should sleep with and how i should behave
- whom i should marry and why i should stay
- the importance of having children or what i owe my family

Slowly  i to open up to new worlds and different points of view. And i begin reassessing and redefining who i am and what i really believe in. And i begin to discard the doctrines i have outgrown, or should never have practiced to begin with.

I accept the fact that i am not perfect and that not everyone will love, appreciate or approve of who or what i am... and that’s OK... they are entitled to their own views and opinions. And, i come to terms with the fact that i will never be  perfect human being for that matter. So i stop trying to compete with the image inside my head or agonizing over how i compare. And i take a long look at myself in the mirror and i make a promise to give myrself the same unconditional love and support i give so freely to others. Then a sense of confidence is born of self-approval.

And, i stop maneuvering through life merely as a “consumer” hungry for my next fix, a new dress, another pair of shoes or looks of approval and admiration from family, friends or even strangers who pass by. Then i discover that “it is truly in giving that we receive and that the joy and abundance me seek grows out of the giving. And i recognize the importance of “creating” & “contributing” rather than “obtaining” & “accumulating.”

And i give thanks for the simple things I've been blessed with; things that millions of people upon the face of the earth can only dream about a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed and the freedom to pursue my own dreams.

And then i begin to love and to care for myself. i stop engaging in self-destructive behaviors including participating in dysfunctional relationships. i begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water and exercising. And because I've learned that fatigue drains the spirit and creates doubt and fear, i give myself permission to rest. And just as food is fuel for the body, laughter is fuel for the spirit and so i make it a point to create time for play.

Then i learn about love and relationships, how to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away. And i allow only the hands of a lover who truly loves and respects me to glorify me with his touch. i learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say, intentionally or unintentionally and that not everyone will always come through and interestingly enough, it’s not always about me. So, i stop lashing out and pointing fingers or looking to place blame for the things that were done to me or weren’t done for me. And i learn to keep my Ego in check and to acknowledge and redirect the destructive emotions it spawns; anger, jealousy and resentment.

I learn how to say I was wrong and to forgive people for their own human frailties. I learn to build bridges instead of walls and about the healing power of love as it is expressed through a kind word, a warm smile or a friendly gesture. And, at the same time, I eliminate any relationships that are hurtful or fail to uplift and edify me. i  stop working so hard at smoothing things over and setting my needs aside. i learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK and that it is my right to want or expect certain things. And i learn the importance of communicating my needs with confidence and grace. i  learn that the only cross to bear is the one i choose to carry and that eventually martyrs are burned at the stake. Then i learn to distinguish between guilt, and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO. i learn that i don’t know all the answers, it’s not my job to save the world and that sometimes i just need to Let Go.

Moreover, i learn to look at people as they really are and not as i would want them to be, and i am careful not to project my neediness or insecurities onto a relationship. i learn that i will not be, more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable or important because of the man on my arm or the child that bearsmy name. I learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love and relationships and that that not everyone can always love me the way i would want them to. So i stop appraising my worth by the measure of love i have given. And suddenly i realize that it’s wrong to demand that someone live their life or sacrifice their dreams just to serve my needs, ease my insecurities, or meet “my” standards and expectations. i learn that the only love worth giving and receiving is the love that is given freely without conditions or limitations. And i learn what it means to love. So i stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. I learn that “alone” does not mean “lonely” and i begin to discover the joy of spending time “with myself” and “on myself.” Then i discover the greatest and most fulfilling love i will ever know. Self Love. And so, it comes to pass that through understanding my heart heals; and now all new things are possible.

Moving along, i begin to avoid Toxic people and conversations. And i stop wasting time and energy rehashing my situation with family and friends. I learn that talk doesn’t change things and that unrequited wishes can only serve to keep i trapped in the past. So, i stop lamenting over what could or should have been and i make a decision to leave the past behind. Then i begin to invest my time and energy to affect positive change. I take a personal inventory of all my strengths and weaknesses and the areas me need to improve in order to move ahead. I set my goals and map out a plan of action to see things through.

I learn that life isn’t always fair and i don’t always get what i think i deserve and i stop personalizing every loss or disappointment. I learn to accept that sometimes bad things happen to good people and that these things are not an act of God... but merely a random act of fate.

And I stop looking for guarantees because I’ve learned that the only thing i can really count on is the unexpected and that whatever happens, I’ll learn to deal with it. And i learn that the only thing i must truly fear is the great robber baron of all time FEAR itself. So i learn to step right into and through my fears because to give into fear is to give away the right to live life on my terms. I learn that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophesy and i learn to go after what i want and not to squander my life living under a cloud of indecision or feelings of impending doom.

Then, i learn about the money... the personal power and independence it brings and the options it creates. And i recognize the necessity to create my own personal wealth. Slowly, i begin to take responsibility for myself by myself and i make myself a promise to never betray myself and to never ever settle for less than my heart’s desire. Then a sense of power is born of self-reliance. And i live with honor and integrity because i know that these principles are not the outdated ideals of a by-gone era but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which i must build my life. And i make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting and to stay open to every wonderful opportunity and exciting possibility. Then i hang a wind chime outside my window to remind myself what beauty there is in Simplicity.

Finally, with courage in my heart and with mother by my side  take a stand, i take a deep breath and i begin to design the life i want to live as best as i can.

Prafulla....

At the river of Budapest, Hungery. The time made me feel how my thoughts take me to this path.......was a real awakening  

Why u banned...INDIA'S DAUGHTER

Thanks BBC for this documentary

A documentary called 'India's Daughters' is causing much consternation in the country today. The film, made on the grotesque December 16 rape case and the protests that erupted, features an interview with one of the convicted rapists and also the defence lawyers.

Now the government has got a court injunction on the airing of the documentary after outrage by a section of the media, a few activists and some Parliamentarians over what they saw as glorification of the rapists and the provision to them of undue space to air their perverted views.

After having watched the documentary myself this afternoon, I am convinced that the protests are misguided. Why must this film be banned, and dubbed as some international conspiracy to malign India's image?

Those protesting against the film have just flown off the handle like a primetime anchor who can at best be called Outrageous Emeritus. They have made up their mind that the film is insulting to Nirbhaya without even waiting to watch it. Well it's a familiar story with every ban in this country. The most outraged are mostly the most ignorant.
 
First, on the charge of the breach of journalistic ethics in interviewing a rapist. Well, it looks terrible on the face of it. But once you see the film as a whole, you see the point. The film at no point glorifies the rapist or attempts to absolve him of his heinous act, let alone trying to influence the judicial process. It pins the blame where it belongs: on the individual and the collective psyche of the male chauvinist society that we are guilty of being.
 
The second charge is that the documentary insults and belittles the outrageous crime committed on a young girl on that fateful December night. No, it doesn't. What the film does is mirror the deep-rooted prejudices, biases and patriarchal views that translate into the most heinous of gender crimes in our part of the world.
 
The defence lawyer, who is blurting out 'gems' such as "In our society, we never allow our girls to come out from the house after 6:30 or 7:30 or 8:30 in the evening with any unknown person...You are talking about man and woman as friends. Sorry, that doesn't have any place in our society. We have the best culture. In our culture, there is no place for a woman", is not just one individual, He is speaking for most men in our country. And these men are not confined to khap panchayats or religious institutions. These men are all around -- in politics, in police, in universities, everywhere.
 
The rapist's remarks, which cannot be directly reported, betray the commonplace mindset that women need to stay within the confines of four walls as the bearers of family honour. If not, they have it coming. If they go "astray", the patriarchal head of the family "must pour petrol on her and burn her alive" says another lawyer who is interviewed in the documentary tells us.
 
These retrograde, violent views on women are commonplace in our society. And 'India's Daughter' is not the first work that has uncovered this ugly reality. There was a Tehelka sting sometime ago that exposed the rot in the mindset of our policemen. And most of us come across them in our daily lives in one form or the other. The "blame the girl for rape" mentality is widespread and it needs to be fought by all men and women who believe in a gender-just world.
 
'India's Daughter' is just a documentary. It's not going to drastically alter the discourse on gender issues in our country, but banning it is also not going to help the fight against sexual violence.
 
Far from insulting Nirbhaya, the documentary reminds us that the battle against sexual violence is far from being won. It reminds us that we cannot pat our backs just by condemning four men to death. The thought process, the perverted ideas that give birth to, and also normalise, the barbaric treatment of women are alive and kicking in our homes, our workplaces, our streets, everywhere.
 
The film must be shown in India. It will shake up and jolt people. It's time to confront the truth and say it again and again, not run away from it crying conspiracy.

My way to happy Familly

Family.....an epitome of everything

Families are the essential building blocks of any society and happy families make a happy society. Everyone wants to live in a happy family as family is the place where human beings find the accomplishment of life. Modern families often face multiple relationship issues which have emerged as contribution of the changed lifestyle and les intense relationships.

Living in a happy family is important to mold each and every human being into responsible social beings. Home and families are places where kids and elders live with a feeling of security and also places of sharing, love, care and concern. Mutual understanding, adjustments and love creates the unbreakable bond between family members and if taken care of certain aspects, any family can be made a happy family.

All are equal 

Considering each of the family members equal and not being partial to anyone is the best qualities a family member can posses. When everybody in the family is considered equal it boosts the confidence, security feeling and affection. Accept the opinions of everyone in the family when family related decision are taken and facilitate mutual respect among family members if you wish to convert your family into a happy family.

Speak it.....

Communication is the key to build a jovial family. Be positive in your communication within the family and truly, the positive communication is the language of love. Talk to each other in the family frequently and designating family together times every day is helpful to this purpose. Even between the spouses, talking eases the tensions and promotes the attachment. Never argue or shout at each other unnecessarily. Family should be a place everyone wants to be with always.

Do everything......

Family rituals are mandatory to maintain the relationships. There are specific practicable family rituals same as religious or national. Weekly outdoor dinners, monthly pleasure trips, family songs, visiting relatives, family cooking day etc., are some of the family rituals that are helpful to bind the entire family with the strings of affection. Such activities are also called rituals of honor as they help each of the family members to understand each other and learn to honor them.

Do not argue 

Parents should be cautious to not fight before the children and blame each other for mistakes. Horrifying expressions of anger is also equally destructive. When one of the family members makes the entire family life worse with such negative expressions, others may feel family as a disliked place to be. When parents fight before the kids, they are, in fact, teaching the kids with a wrong lesson of communication. Children of fighting parents may become rebels and antisocial in the future life.

For me family is.... The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other's life.

Prafulla

Attachment

Why and How we attach to a particular place !!!

Place attachment and meaning are particularly relevant when considering issues of urban development and community-building. Attachment and meaning emerge from a variety of experiences and situations, and are often related to parks, green spaces, and natural areas. Attachment may serve to promote and encourage environmentally responsible behavior using appeals to individuals’ self-identity and dependence. 

Why we attach 

1. Place attachment and meaning are the person-to-place bonds that evolve through emotional connection, meaning, and understandings of a specific place and/or features of a place.
2. The attachment and meaning of a  place can encourage individuals to actively protect and engage in pro-environmental behavior.
3. Many people who work on behalf of the environment cite their childhood experiences in nature as the foundations for their work.

How Attachmment Forms

Some localities project a certain indefinable sense of well-being and become places we want to return to, time and again. Other settings, especially dramatic landscapes or locations of intense experiences, cause an almost-immediate, intimate, and emotional association.  Individuals may not even need to see some places first-hand to feel connection or attachment, such as Indian' feeling toward the the Taj Mahal or Tadoba National Park.

Is attachment to place specific or general? From a biological perspective, attachments are likely to form, at least initially, to places exhibiting attractive, calming, or safe features. An individualistic view assumes that attachment forms to specific locations based on first-hand experiences. The sociocultural perspective predicts that attachment forms via the shared cultural ideologies of groups and shared interactions with place. All three perspectives are relevant to a discussion of place. Further, neuroscience research provides evidence that sense of place constitutes a distinct dimension in mental processing.

Emotions

Emotion is central to the formation of place attachment and reinforces relationships between individuals and their environment. Emotional attachment can be particularly difficult to study, yet researchers detect some patterns in emotional response. Adult remembrance of childhood place can invoke intense memories and emotional connection, including feelings of love, grief, pleasure (including play, sensory, mastery, adventure, and freedom), security, and identity. 

Stress and Urban Life

Stress and Urban Life......

The region of the brain that reacts to stress is directly linked to the autonomic nervous system,which controls basic physiological functions. When our bodies become stressed, our attention heightens, muscle tension increases, blood pressure rises, the pulse quickens, respiration increases, the digestive system slows, and one’s body produces more adrenaline.

Stress reactions are deeply rooted and primal. The “fight or flight” response often determined survival in the early history of humans. In today’s urban settings, dangerous situations are no longer the most common source of stress. Yet our body’s systems respond in similar ways to the ongoing, ever-present stresses in our modern lifestyles, and there are few opportunities for recovery. Cumulative “daily hassles” can have a greater impact on health and well-being than less common acute stress events.

Everyday stress factors in modern society can include financial strain, work demands, job loss, complex family interactions, marital conflict, and other persistent situations. In urban environments, people are often overloaded and over-stimulated by noise, movement, and visual complexity. Such daily interactions can overwhelm people. People who are raised in urban environments experience increased risk for mental health disorders.

Another source of stress in contemporary everyday life is the feeling of disconnect between what we can accomplish and what we perceive is expected of us, especially in the work place. This can lead to feeling a lack of control in one’s life. Surveys indicate that 80% of Indian workers experience stress in their workplace, and most people today believe they experience more stress than people did one generation ago. One result is anger, which can contribute to poor work performance, absenteeism, and increased turnover.

Combined, life stressors lead to conditions of chronic stress. Chronic stress occurs when a person is exposed to mild or major stressors for a prolonged period of time with no opportunity for recovery, and then feels that he or she has no control over that situation. Individuals of lower socioeconomic status often experience a disproportionate amount chronic stress due to little control over work conditions, as well as higher exposure to violence, unemployment, and crime.

Dont Be Busy

Don't be busy....Enjoy Life !!!

I saw a dear friend a few days ago. I stopped by to ask her how she was doing, how her family was. She looked up, voice lowered, and just whimpered: “I’m so busy… I am so busy… have so much going on.”

Almost immediately after, I ran into another friend and asked him how he was. Again, same tone, same response: “I’m just so busy… got so much to do.”

The tone was exacerbated, tired, even overwhelmed.

And it’s not just adults. When i moved to Europe (Rome Italy) about 3 years ago, we were thrilled to be moving to a city with a great school system. I found a diverse neighborhood, filled with families. Everything felt good, felt right.

After i settled in, I went to one of the friendly neighbors, asking if their daughter and our daughter could get together and play. The mother, a really lovely person, reached for her phone and pulled out the calendar function. She scrolled… and scrolled… and scrolled. She finally said: “She has a 45-minute opening two and half weeks from now. The rest of the time it’s gymnastics, piano, and voice lessons. She’s just…. so busy.”

Horribly destructive habits start early, really early.

How did we end up living like this? Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we do this to our children? When did we forget that we are human beings, not human doings?

Whatever happened to a world in which kids get muddy, get dirty, get messy, and heavens, get bored? Do we have to love our children so much that we overschedule them, making them stressed and busy — just like us?

What happened to a world in which we can sit with the people we love so much and have slow conversations about the state of our heart and soul, conversations that slowly unfold, conversations with pregnant pauses and silences that we are in no rush to fill?

How did we create a world in which we have more and more and more to do with less time for leisure, less time for reflection, less time for community, less time to just… be?

Somewhere i read, “The examined life is not worth living… for a human.” How are we supposed to live, to examine, to be, to become, to be fully human when we are so busy?

This disease of being “busy” (and let’s call it what it is, the dis-ease of being busy, when we are never at ease) is spiritually destructive to our health and wellbeing. It saps our ability to be fully present with those we love the most in our families, and keeps us from forming the kind of community that we all so desperately crave.

Since the 1950s, we have had so many new technological innovations that we thought (or were promised) would make our lives easier, faster, simpler. Yet, we have no more “free” or leisurely time today than we did decades ago.

For some of us, the “privileged” ones, the lines between work and home have become blurred. We are on our devices. All. The. Freaking. Time.

Smart phones and laptops mean that there is no division between the office and home. When the kids are in bed, we are back online.

One of my own daily struggles is the avalanche of email. I often refer to it as my jihad against email. I am constantly buried under hundreds and hundreds of emails, and I have absolutely no idea how to make it stop. I’ve tried different techniques: only responding in the evenings, not responding over weekends, asking people to schedule more face-to-face time. They keep on coming, in volumes that are unfathomable: personal emails, business emails, hybrid emails. And people expect a response — right now. I, too, it turns out… am so busy.

The reality looks very different for others. For many, working two jobs in low-paying sectors is the only way to keep the family afloat. Twenty percent of our children are living in poverty, and too many of our parents are working minimum wage jobs just to put a roof over their head and something resembling food on the table. We are so busy.

The old models, including that of a nuclear family with one parent working outside the home (if it ever existed), have passed away for most of us. We now have a majority of families being single families, or where both parents are working outside the home. It is not working.

It doesn’t have to be this way.

In many Muslim cultures, when you want to ask them how they’re doing, you ask: in Arabic, Kayf haal-ik? or, in Persian, Haal-e shomaa chetoreh? How is yourhaal?

What is this haal that you inquire about? It is the transient state of one’s heart. In reality, we ask, “How is your heart doing at this very moment, at this breath?” When I ask, “How are you?” that is really what I want to know.

I am not asking how many items are on your to-do list, nor asking how many items are in your inbox. I want to know how your heart is doing, at this very moment. Tell me. Tell me your heart is joyous, tell me your heart is aching, tell me your heart is sad, tell me your heart craves a human touch. Examine your own heart, explore your soul, and then tell me something about your heart and your soul.

Tell me you remember you are still a human being, not just a human doing. Tell me you’re more than just a machine, checking off items from your to-do list. Have that conversation, that glance, that touch. Be a healing conversation, one filled with grace and presence.

Put your hand on my arm, look me in the eye, and connect with me for one second. Tell me something about your heart, and awaken my heart. Help me remember that I too am a full and complete human being, a human being who also craves a human touch.

I teach at a university where many students pride themselves on the “study hard, party hard” lifestyle. This might be a reflection of many of our lifestyles and our busy-ness — that even our means of relaxation is itself a reflection of that same world of overstimulation. Our relaxation often takes the form of action-filled (yet mindless) films, or violent and face-paced sports.

I don’t have any magical solutions. All I know is that we are losing the ability to live a truly human life.

We need a different relationship to work, to technology. We know what we want: a meaningful life, a sense of community, a balanced existence. It’s not just about “leaning in” or faster iPhones. We want to be truly human.

“It takes more courage to examine the dark corners of your own soul than it does for a soldier to fight on a battlefield.”

How exactly are we supposed to examine the dark corners of our soul when we are so busy? How are we supposed to live the examined life?

I am always a prisoner of hope, but I wonder if we are willing to have the structural conversation necessary about how to do that, how to live like that. Somehow we need a different model of organizing our lives, our societies, our families, our communities.

I want my kids to be dirty, messy, even bored — learning to become human. I want us to have a kind of existence where we can pause, look each other in the eye, touch one another, and inquire together: Here is how my heart is doing? I am taking the time to reflect on my own existence; I am in touch enough with my own heart and soul to know how I fare, and I know how to express the state of my heart.

How is the state of your heart today?

Let us insist on a type of human-to-human connection where when one of us responds by saying, “I am just so busy,” we can follow up by saying, “I know, love. We all are. But I want to know how your heart is doing.”

Be with Nature

Why we need Nature ...to a reality

Encounters with nearby nature help alleviate mental fatigue by relaxing and restoring the mind. Within built environments parks and green spaces are settings for cognitive respite, as they encourage social interaction and de-stressing through exercise or conversation, and provide calming settings. Having quality landscaping and vegetation in and around the places where people work and study is a good investment. Both visual access and being within green space helps to restore the mind’s ability to focus. This can improve job and school performance, and help alleviate mental stress and illness.

The myth......we all think

The experience of nature helps to restore the mind from the mental fatigue of work or studies, contributing to improved work performance and satisfaction.

Urban nature, when provided as parks and walkways and incorporated into building design, provides calming and inspiring environments and encourages learning, inquisitiveness, and alertness. Outdoor activities can help alleviate symptoms of Alzheimers, dementia, stress, and depression. Contact with nature helps children to develop cognitive, emotional, and behavioral connections to their nearby social and biophysical environments. Nature experiences are important for encouraging imagination and creativity, cognitive and intellectual development, and social relationships............but really does this true. (For me 110% just a story without base).

What I think ....what all we need

for me following few points really need to understand

1. Brain - The brain, complex and vulnerable, is the only organ that undergoes substantial maturation after birth. This process is shaped in part by response to stimuli in our surroundings (including both negative and positive conditions), and continues throughout our lives. Substantial research shows that natural scenes evoke positive emotions, facilitate cognitive functioning, and promote recovery from mental fatigue for people who are in good mental health. The experience of nature can also provide respite for those who experience short-term and chronic mental illness. The constant stimuli of city life can be mentally exhausting, and life in the city can actually dull our thinking. In navigating the outdoor environment, one must continually monitor traffic and pedestrian flow while constantly focusing on where one is going and the means to get there. Constant response to even such low-level stimuli cannot be maintained indefinitely. A few minutes in a crowded city setting can cause the brain to suffer memory loss and reduced self-control. Even brief glimpses of natural elements improve brain performance by providing a cognitive break from the complex demands of urban life. Our immediate environment can prompt both negative and positive subconscious effects. A glance at an object that even remotely resembles a snake, for instance, may initiate an instantaneous fear response. Similarly, the presence of plants subconsciously and beneficially impact how the brain responds even when we do not focus attention on such surroundings.

In today’s lifestyles and work, we must focus our attention on critical information or tasks. Maintaining that focus by screening out distractions overloads our capacity for conscious attention. Yet, exposure to settings that are visually interesting (having “high fascination”) have been found to aid directed attention recovery. Comparing memory retention in people viewing low versus high fascination scenes in built and natural environments, respectively, people viewing natural environments performed significantly better So, in the case of offices and schools, where one must focus on tasks, the addition of natural features could significantly improve attention and content retention rates.

2. Workspace - Office workers may spend entire days indoors, and many decorate their workspaces with plants or pictures of natural settings to compensate for lack of a window view. In one study, people in windowless workspaces introduced twice as many nature elements to their work area as those who had window views of natural areas.

Office workers report that plants make for more attractive, pleasant, and healthy work environments, but what impact do plants and nature views have on work performance? Studies show improved employee morale, decreased absenteeism, and increased worker efficiency result from such workplace enhancements. Having plants within view of workstations decreases both illness incidence, and the amount of self-reported sick leave. One study found that workers with workstation views that included green elements were more satisfied at work and had more patience, less frustration, increased enthusiasm for work, and fewer health problems. Not having nature views or indoor plants are associated with higher levels of tension and anxiety in office workers.

3. Children - In recent times, children have less opportunity to be outdoors, in terms of both time and space. Some schools provide nature experiences as part of a class, recess, or special activity, as they recognize the potentially significant affects on learning and mental health. Educational theory suggests that contact with nature facilitates children’s development of cognitive, emotional, and spiritual connections to social and biophysical environments around them. Ecological theory also suggests that contact with nature is important for children’s mental, emotional, and social health because imagination and creativity, cognitive and intellectual development, and social relationships are encouraged in outdoor activity, all of which improve the child’s mental health and function. Nature can provide both background and objects for play and learning. Among older children, exposure to nature encourages exploration and building activities, which can improve problem-solving abilities, ability to respond to changing contexts, as well as participation in group decision-making. Younger children often use outdoor settings having plants, stones, and sticks as props for imaginative play, which is key to social and cognitive development. One study of children’s play found that a cluster of shrubs was the most popular place to play on an elementary schoolyard because it could be transformed into many imaginary places: a house, spaceship, etc.

Now nature to your mental illness......

1.  Stress Relief - In addition to physiological symptoms, stress can lead to depression, schizophrenia, anxiety, exhaustion, and fatigue syndromes. Stress can occur at any time in life; however, such responses are especially prominent at later age due to physical, psychological, and social changes—for example, in response to chronic disease, disability, death of loved ones, or financial hardship. Stress can also negatively affect people’s perceptions of their well-being, including a poor perception of their own mental health. Physical activity has been linked to improvements in mental health and stress; many studies connect urban park use to decreased stress levels and improved moods. In one study, the longer participants stayed in a park, the less stress they exhibited. More than 100 studies have shown that relaxation and stress reduction are significant benefits associated with spending time in green areas.

2. Depression - Depression also occurs at any age and can be helped through improved social connections (to decrease the feeling of isolation) and exercise, both of which are promoted by having nearby green outdoor spaces. In one study, 71% of people found a reduction in depression after going on an outdoor walk versus a 45% reduction by those who went on an indoor walk. Another study investigated major depression disorder (MDD) and found that an exercise program can be just as effective as antidepressants in reducing depression among patients. The value of green spaces in encouraging exercise is relevant to treating depression symptoms.

DEPRESSION, CARRIER, COMPETITION, AND JOB HAS KILLED SO MANY DREAMS.......ITS JUST BECAUSE WE NEVER TRIED KNOWING NATURE HAS CONNECTION WITH LIFE.......prafulla.