I am Failure.....No u Never

Nobody is failure......Just Look other way

Dear Friends, in this competitive era, i frequently come across many students and people who are complaining about their failures and then i started looking it just other way. Then thought to write this blog. 

Nobody is failure

Please know that you’re not a failure. You aren’t a failure because you are already a winner by being on Earth....then i remember the sentence of Amir Khan in 3 idiots.

Did you know that before you were born, you were in the biggest race of your life? 250 millions of sperms raced up a cervix and “fought” to penetrate the egg inside. One sperm outlasted the 250 million other folks, successfully penetrated the egg, and fused with it to become a zygote, eventually becoming a fetus. This fetus is… you.

Why were there so many sperms needed? Firstly, the distance between the female birth canal and the fallopian tube may seem small to us (18 cm), but to a wee little sperm that’s 0.05 mm in length (can’t even be seen without a microscope), that’s one hell of a race. Most sperms never make it through this journey; it takes a champion to “swim” all the way through this distance that’s 3600 times its length. Secondly, the human egg has a hard outer layer that makes fertilization difficult. Experts believe this is nature’s way of allowing only the healthiest sperm to fertilize it, thereby producing a baby with the best chances to survive in the world. Well, this baby is you. 

So the next time you think you are a failure, remember that you outdid 250 million others for your chance in life — odds even lower than winning the lottery. You have always been a champion — even before you were born. You just didn’t know it. Now you do.

Nobody is perfect....its ok to be imperfect

Sometimes we feel shit about ourselves because we failed certain standards. Maybe we made a mistake that shouldn’t be made. Maybe we failed to achieve a certain result we were expecting. Maybe we feel that we could have done better in something, and the worse thing? Maybe it’s not something reversible.

To this, I want you to know that it’s okay to be imperfect. Just because you don’t achieve certain “standards” doesn’t mean you are a failure. It just means that there is something new to learn, something to improve on. And that’s the beauty of life — to learn, grow, and improve upon who we were yesterday. Life would be quite boring if we never faced any obstacles; it would also mean that we aren’t pushing ourselves hard enough, wouldn’t it? And if you ask me, perfection and imperfection are just mental concepts. We are already perfect, as ourselves. We improve not to become “perfect,” but to achieve a better, higher version of us than before.

For me, I realized through this episode that I tended to have very harsh expectations of myself and feel extremely bad whenever I didn’t live up to said standards. Yet, it’s unnatural, even impossible, to live up to such staunch expectations all the time. One, I’m a human, not a robot. (Plus, even a robot malfunctions / makes mistakes.) Two, my expectations are impossibly strict, because I always expect nothing less than the best from myself. This is true be it for highly important or little things. Yet, no one can thrive in the face of such standards. It’s a matter of time before one crumbles, even dies, under such immense scrutiny.

By learning that it’s okay not to meet expectations sometimes and it’s more important that I learn and improve, I realized that there was no “failure” to speak of, just a learning point. My misery came from being impossibly hard on myself, and by releasing myself of such expectations, I suddenly felt happier.

Do not compare with others

Sometimes the feeling “I’m a failure” comes when we compare ourselves with others. I know there are times when I see other websites, online personalities doing much better than me and it makes me nervous, inferior because I’d feel like I’m not doing my best to pursue my passion. It makes me wish that I were doing more to reach out to more people and make a bigger impact in their lives.

However, have you heard of this saying? “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid,” ~ Albert Einstein. I have realized that everyone is ultimately different. While some may be excelling with Approach A, that doesn’t mean that it’s an approach I want to use or that it’s aligned with my beliefs. Rather than beat myself up and feel like a failure, I’ve learned that it’s more important to stay true to who I am and do what works for me while relentlessly growing toward my vision — without making self-defeating comparisons with others.

Are you comparing yourself with others? Are you feeling inferior over such comparisons? If so, stop. What are your own ambitions, passions? Work on these and shine in your own light. Everyone has different paths in life. Your goal isn’t to be the same as others. Your goal is to be you and to be the best you.

Don't Subject Yourself to others judgement 

If you’re receiving negative criticism right now, I hope you stay strong and not let such comments change your perception of you. Because there are always going to be nasty people out there; people who are unhappy, bitter no matter what you say or do. The best thing is to cut out naysayers while surrounding yourself with the people who appreciate you. There are many people who believe in you and love what you do. Do not let the naysayers pull you down, because if you do, you’d be doing a real disservice to the people who value you and your work.

Step into life

Last but not least, step into life.

I’ve found that when we enter into a “I’m a failure” or “I hate myself” funk, it’s easy to recede into a cocoon. Not talk to anyone. Not reach out. Not work on our goals. Not get anything done. Not be in contact with humanity. And disappear into a hole.

If this is your way of recharging, go ahead and do that. It’s important to have down times to take stock. However, don’t do this for too long. Firstly, the world needs you for your talents. You may not realize it, but when you recede into your hole, you deprive the universe of something that only you can give. Secondly, as humans, we don’t exist as lone units. We are all part of this world. When we cut ourselves from others / the world, it may feel “safe,” even relieving at first. However, over time, it’ll only eat us on the inside as we deprive ourselves of our real energy sources — human contact, our personal growth, and the ability to affect the world with our talents. Just like a flower will wither and die when cut off of its nutrient source, a person can’t thrive when deprived of the very fundamentals of a meaningful, spiritually fulfilling existence.

So, step into the light. Get out there and meet people. Embrace your goals; take bold actions toward them. You create your future and you do that with the actions you take today.

Last but not least, remember: you are not a failure. You are a winner. Have been and will continue to be, as long as you never stop believing in you and never give up. Never forget that. 

Prafulla

It was during the party, when everybody fails to dance, i started.....bcoz i see the mood of the party in other way and as dance started party flourished and number dancer increases.....dont judge how u dance, see how u really enjoy.

Love Scientifically

The Science of Love

Dear friends as we can see the world is full of loving things around us, Hollywood, Bollywood and what more shows epic of love and our generation falls for it. But have we ever thought how we feel something that we start loving the things.....mostly in case of opposite case. So after few months of study and survey of literature...i am writing this blog.

Human body and psychology is designed to attract members of opposite sex. This intelligent design is the key to human relationships and sexuality which further works as basic element of human continuity on earth through procreation. Love or romance is a psychological application imprinted into your brain which is stimulated even in the childhood itself. 

According to me there are several social and psychological aspects behind a person's inclinations to fall in love.

Love Chemicals (Hormones)

Certain pheromones and hormones are believed to play vital role in attracting people each other and making them fall in relationships. These pheromones are said to be smell-free variants, as recognized by a psychological process not through a biological way. Oxytocin and vasopressin are the two hormones that promote the emotion of romance in human beings. You might wonder if romance is caused by the presence of hormones and pheromones, then why everybody don't feel the same feelings with all others. The answer is the right combination. A persona may have developed likeness to certain combination of hormones only. This is the reason you will fall in love with certain people only.

Psychology Behind

Love is a psychological element of human relationships, thus it is very difficult to manipulate one's psychology to yield romance in his/her mind. There are certain psychological aspects that may possibly make people fall in love. A feeling of similarity is a major psychological facet that sprouts romance. People who interact for longer period or people who are of the same mind set may develop romance within themselves. According to psychological theories romance can happen in two ways; compassionate love and passionate love. Compassionate romance is originated from mutual understanding, respect and sharing. On the other hand passionate love is based on intense sexual desires, anxiety and affection. Each love or relationship is fueled by any of these psychological reasons.

Physical Attraction 

Physical attraction is another reason behind romantic relationships. A normal man or woman is designed to get attracted to the opposite sex at the fulfillment of time. But all the men or women do not find each and every counterpart attracted in the same intensity. They feel some more beautiful or sexy while others less.

The reason is again psychological as the likeness of people is formed in the brain according to the aesthetic and sexual images and ideas a persona has created in his/her mind. The concept of beauty differs from people to people. Some may say that slim is sexy, while other may differ in opinion. As the sayings go, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, attractiveness also vary as preferences of people differ.

Social Aspects

Human beings today live in societies where crystal clear laws are defined regarding the human relationships. Society encourages every adult to live in families where they procreate and grow kids as responsible members of society. A child who reaches the age of puberty sees male female relationships all around and gradually he/she too seeks the company of a counterpart. Society, through life examples and media, fuses the idea of male female relationships into a child and he/she feels an urgency of falling in love within. Society opens more and more chances for girls and boys to interact. This helps them to fall in love easily as things or people most seen become dear to eyes. Today's family atmosphere plays a great role in making people falling in love.Kids lack parental care as parents may find no time to spare for kids in their busy schedule of life. Thus the only option of receiving care and love is to find out a male/female partner who can substitute all other people. It is a proven fact that less cared kids at home often fall in relationships earlier than others. They satisfy the urge for love in a romantic relationship. This insecurity and unloved feelings often make kids end up with unhealthy relationships too. When the romance is concerned, the social reasons are more visible compared to the psychological or hormonal reasons.

At last....Dear Friends, whatever science says, but for me Love is Blind and it can happen suddenly we never know. its a eternal part of ours life and we should fall in love to love the life. A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love.

Prafulla

Live the life to the fullest

We get only one life.....live it

I am in Zurich since last few days for a conference, in my room i met George Belfast, a traveler from California. we had a talk on different ways of living life. I lightened deep within by view and thoughts shared by him. Suddenly i thought to write this blog. He told me one thing.........

"Our time is limited, don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living the result of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinion drown your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, they somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

A few questions arises in my mind and whole night left sleepless. How do you feel about your life today? Are you living every day in exuberance? Do you love what you’re doing? Are you excited every single moment? Are you looking forward to what’s coming up next? Are you living your best life? If your answer to any of the above is a no, maybe or not sure, that means you’re not living your life to the fullest. Which really shouldn’t be the case, because your life experience is up to you to create. Why settle for anything less than what you can get? You deserve nothing but the best. In the past years of my life, especially since after I met George I’ve been living every day to the fullest, filled with joy, passion and rigor. It’s an amazing experience that I want you to experience that too.

This is a list of 101 timeless principles I use to live my best life, and I hope they’ll help you to do so too. As you live in alignment with them, you’ll find yourself becoming more conscious, more alive, and more importantly, experiencing life on a whole new level. Be sure to bookmark or even print out this page and refer to it daily to guide you to your best life. 

Here are my ways to live life to the fullest:

1. Live every day on a fresh new start. Don’t be held back by what                 happened yesterday, the day before, the week before, the year before,                 and so on.

2. Be true to who you are. Stop trying to please other people or be someone else. It’s better to be an original version of yourself than an exact duplicate of someone else.

3.Quit complaining. Don’t be like the howling dog, always howling and never doing anything. Stop complaining about your problems and work on them instead.

4.Be proactive. Stop waiting for others around you to do something and take action yourself instead.

5.Rather than think “what if”, think “next time”. Don’t think about things you can’t change (namely what has happened and thoughts of other people) or unhappy things because these are disempowering.Instead focus on the things you can action upon. That’s the most constructive thing you can do in any situation.

6.Focus on WHAT vs. How. Focus on WHAT you want first, before you think about HOW to do it. Anything is possible, as long as you set your mind, heart and soul to it.

7.Create your own opportunities. You can wait for opportunities to drop in life. Or, you can go out there and create your own opportunities. The latter is definite and much more empowering

8.Live more consciously each day. Stop sleepwalking through life. Your life is something to be experienced, not coasted through.

9.Be committed to your growth. In the Map of Consciousness, from Shame to Enlightenment. The higher level of consciousness you are in, the richer your life experience. Achieving higher consciousness comes from your commitment to growth.

10.Know your inner self. This means knowing who you are and what you represent. Be clear of your personal identity

11.Discover your life purpose. Set the mission statement for your life; one that will drive you to life your life to the fullest.

12.Live in alignment with your purpose. What can you start doing immediately that will let you live 100% in alignment with your purpose? How can you live true to your purpose within every context/situation/environment you are in, every second of the day?

13.Set your life commandments. Define your personal commandments to live your best life. What adages and principles do you want to follow in your life?.

14.Hold yourself to the highest conduct. Every one of us have our own set of ethics, principles and moral codes. Live true to them every day. Also, live in full alignment with your purpose, commandments  and values. 

15.Design your ideal life. What is your ideal life? Design it. First, assess your life at the moment via the life wheel. Then, ask yourself what it takes to live a 10/10 life (in all 10 areas – career, health, love, social, etc…). What is the life that will make you the best person you can ever be? Set your BHAGs – big, hairy and audacious goals! There are no limits in life – only those you set for yourself.

16.Stop putting life on hold. Are you putting any parts of your life on hold? What is one area of your life you have been putting off/avoiding/denying? Uncover it and start working on it.

17.Create your life handbook. Your life handbook is your life-long personal manual to live your best life – from your mission statement, your values, your long-term goals, short-term goals, personal strengths, blind spots to address, plans, among others. Create your book first then build on from there.

18.Set your goals. After you design your ideal life, set your 5-year, 3-year and 1-year goals. The more specific your goals, the better!

19.Take action on your goals and dreams. Create an action plan with your strategy, plan and immediate next steps. is a great tool to get you started.

20.Create your bucket list, i.e. things to do before you die. Then, get out to achieve them.

21.Don’t do things for the sake of doing them. Always evaluate what you’re doing and only do it if there is meaning behind them. Don’t be afraid to quit the things that don’t serve your path.

22.Do the things you love, because life is too precious to spend it doing anything else. If you don’t enjoy something, then don’t do it. Spend your time and energy on things that bring you fulfillment and happiness.

23.Discover Your Passion in Life. What sets you on fire? Go out there (and explore inward) to know what you love to do.

24.Make your passion a full-fledged career. Then,  Start pursuing it.Stop working in a job you are passionless toward. Quit your job when you are ready to do it full-time.

25.Learn from criticism. Be open to criticism but don’t be affected by it. Criticism is meant to help you be a better person. Learn from it.

26.Be positive. Is the glass half empty or half full? How about neither? It’s actually all-full – the bottom half is water, the top half is air. It’s all a matter of perception. Take on empowering perceptions, not those that bind you. If you can see the positive sides of every thing, you’ll be able to live a much richer life than others. Purge unnecessary negativity from your life.

27.Be a compassionate person. Show compassion and kindness to everyone around you.

28.Develop 100% self-belief. Believe in yourself and your abilities.  Remove your limiting beliefs and replace them with empowering ones, you identify your limiting beliefs and replace them with empowering ones). If you don’t believe in yourself, how can you expect others to believe in you?

29.Let go of unhappy past. This means past grievances, heartbreaks, sadness,disappointments, etc.

30.Forgive those who may have done you wrong in the past. “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and realize it was you.” 

31.Let go of attachments. Don’t fixate yourself with a certain status, fame, wealth or material possessions. These are impermanent and will ultimately disappear one day when you die. Focus on growing and living life to the fullest instead.

32.Let go of relationships that do not serve you. That means negative people, dishonest people, people who don’t respect you, people are overly critical and relationships that prevent you from growing.

33.Spend more time with people who enable you. Hang out with people who you compatible with, like-minded people, people who are positive, successful, strong achievers and positive for your growth. You are after all the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.

34.Build genuine, authentic connections with people around you – strangers, friends, family, colleagues, business partners, customers/clients, etc. Spend more time to know them better and foster stronger connections.

35.Connect with an old friend. There is no end to the number of friends you can have. Reach out to people from the past.

36.Do a kind deed a day. What is something you can do today that will make the world a better place? Go and do it.

37.Help other people who are in need. Voluntarism is one outlet. You can also start with your friends and family.

38.Help people when they least expect it, without reason. You don’t need any reason to help others. Do it because you want to. Share the love with everyone.

40.Go dating (if you’re single).

41. Fall in love. ♥ 

and can be countless......will write more when new ideas prosper

The most important thing is to enjoy your life - to be happy - it's all that matters........Prafulla

Thanks George.....

My Bucket List

Things i would like to do before i die

A few days ago, I was reading a book and I came across someone’s bucket list. It quickly inspired me to create my own list and write an article about it at the same time.

Bucket list

If you haven’t heard about the term “bucket list”, it is a list of all the goals you want to achieve, dreams you want to fulfill and life experiences you desire to experience before you die.

Why it is important for me 

If you don’t live your days by personal goals and plans, chances are you spend most of your time caught up in a flurry of day-to-day activities. Ever feel your days are passing you by without any tangible output to speak of? What did you accomplish in the past 3 months? What are your upcoming goals for the next 3 months? Look at the things you did and the things you’re planning to do next – Do they mean anything to you if you are to die today? Having a bucket list reminds you of what’s really important so you can act on them.

Even if you frequently live by goals or to-do lists, they are probably framed within a certain social context e.g. performance, career, health. A bucket list opens up the context. It’s a forum to set anything and everything you’ve ever wanted to do, whether it’s big, small or random.

It’s just like planning ahead all the highlights you want for YOUR whole life.  Even though goal setting is already my staple activity, I still found many new things to do while I was writing on my own list. It was an incredibly insightful exercise. What’s more, coming up with my list gave me a whole new layer of enthusiasm knowing what’s in store ahead!

The objective of creating this list isn’t to instill some kind of a race against time or to create aversion toward death. I don’t see our existence to be limited to just our physical years on earth – I don’t see our existence to be limited to just our physical years on earth – our physical lifespan is but a short speck of our existence in the universe.

The whole point of creating your list is to maximize every moment of our existence and live our life to the fullest. It’s a reminder of all the things we want to achieve in our time here, so that instead of pandering our time in pointless activities, we are directing it fully toward what matters to us.

If you don’t have a bucket list, I highly recommend you to create one. How much will it cost? Zero. How long will it take? Probably 30 minutes to an hour, or more if you get really caught up in the writing.  What do you stand to gain? Significant clarity and focus on what you want from your life. It’s an invaluable exchange. 

50 things i would like to do before i die

1. Travel around the world

2. Learn a new language

3. Go for Scuba diving

4. Go skiing

5. Track mountain

6. Do extreme sport

7. Let someone know how much she/he means to you

8.Give a heartfelt surprise to someone

9. Perform kind deed without expecting anything in return

10.Make a difference in someones life

11.Be mentor to someone

12.Pursue my passion

13.play guitar and drum

14.Fly in hot air balloon

15.Do volunteer work 

16.Be friend to stranger

17.Get a food for a stranger

18.Dance in rain

19.Experience sunrise and sunset

20.Plant a tree and watch it grow

21.Get a pet

22.A night in jungle

23.Publish a book

24.Do public speaking in front of 1000 people

25.Throw a mega party

26.Be a matchmaker

27.Go on a blind date 

28.Win a dance competition

29.Go on a road trip

30.Backpack across at least 5 countries

31.Kiss with dolphin

32.Create dream home

33.Bake a cake for someone special

34.Go deep into heart of nature

35.Go out in snow fall

36.Read a book on a subject i never thought

36.Trip with kid

37.Fall asleep on grass

38.Conquer my biggest fear

39.Meditation for 10 days  

40.Learn making Italian food

40.See Chinese winter

41.A night at Switzerland alps

42.A alone journey by car to unknown place

43.Do something completely crazy out of my character

44.Travel first class in Rajdhani Express

45.Fly and pilot a helicopter

46.A buggy jump

47.Meet someone i can dream of meeting

48.Ride a roller coaster

49.Go on a cruise

50.A day as a waiter in hotel. 

Some of it i have done and lot more yet to.....lets see how can i fulfill rest. Life is beautiful and i would like to make it more beautiful.

Prafulla

A dream to cherish....pilot a plane...that was hilarious experience. Lucky enough to fulfill one of my bucket list 

travel around the world......this bucket list still growing......will cover with all continents. 

My Awakening.......My Story

What i Am........The change that change my life

Dear Friends, the day when i lost my father, it was real awakening to my life. it was hard day to me......as the time passed, grievance got more intense....and a village boy shines in international level. how i took my fathers words to change the world around me......I tried...i got....the most important was to try. Now with 4 international, two national award, World recognition, 3 underprivilaged students in international and 5 students in national post.....and most important learned way of happy life...and now source of inspiration. its me.......Dr. Prafulla.

       

There comes a time in your life when you finally get it... When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out- ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world from a new perspective. This is your awakening.

I realize that that day, it is time to stop hoping and waiting for something, or someone, to change or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. I come to terms with the fact that there aren’t always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with me. Then a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

So i begin making my way through the “reality of today” rather than holding out for the “promise of tomorrow.” I realize that much of who i am, and the way i navigate through life is, in great part, a result of all the social conditioning I've received over the course of a lifetime. And i begin to sift through all the nonsense i was taught about:

- how i should look and how much i should weigh
- what i should wear and where i should shop
- where i should live or what type of car i should drive
- whom i should sleep with and how i should behave
- whom i should marry and why i should stay
- the importance of having children or what i owe my family

Slowly  i to open up to new worlds and different points of view. And i begin reassessing and redefining who i am and what i really believe in. And i begin to discard the doctrines i have outgrown, or should never have practiced to begin with.

I accept the fact that i am not perfect and that not everyone will love, appreciate or approve of who or what i am... and that’s OK... they are entitled to their own views and opinions. And, i come to terms with the fact that i will never be  perfect human being for that matter. So i stop trying to compete with the image inside my head or agonizing over how i compare. And i take a long look at myself in the mirror and i make a promise to give myrself the same unconditional love and support i give so freely to others. Then a sense of confidence is born of self-approval.

And, i stop maneuvering through life merely as a “consumer” hungry for my next fix, a new dress, another pair of shoes or looks of approval and admiration from family, friends or even strangers who pass by. Then i discover that “it is truly in giving that we receive and that the joy and abundance me seek grows out of the giving. And i recognize the importance of “creating” & “contributing” rather than “obtaining” & “accumulating.”

And i give thanks for the simple things I've been blessed with; things that millions of people upon the face of the earth can only dream about a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed and the freedom to pursue my own dreams.

And then i begin to love and to care for myself. i stop engaging in self-destructive behaviors including participating in dysfunctional relationships. i begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water and exercising. And because I've learned that fatigue drains the spirit and creates doubt and fear, i give myself permission to rest. And just as food is fuel for the body, laughter is fuel for the spirit and so i make it a point to create time for play.

Then i learn about love and relationships, how to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away. And i allow only the hands of a lover who truly loves and respects me to glorify me with his touch. i learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say, intentionally or unintentionally and that not everyone will always come through and interestingly enough, it’s not always about me. So, i stop lashing out and pointing fingers or looking to place blame for the things that were done to me or weren’t done for me. And i learn to keep my Ego in check and to acknowledge and redirect the destructive emotions it spawns; anger, jealousy and resentment.

I learn how to say I was wrong and to forgive people for their own human frailties. I learn to build bridges instead of walls and about the healing power of love as it is expressed through a kind word, a warm smile or a friendly gesture. And, at the same time, I eliminate any relationships that are hurtful or fail to uplift and edify me. i  stop working so hard at smoothing things over and setting my needs aside. i learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK and that it is my right to want or expect certain things. And i learn the importance of communicating my needs with confidence and grace. i  learn that the only cross to bear is the one i choose to carry and that eventually martyrs are burned at the stake. Then i learn to distinguish between guilt, and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO. i learn that i don’t know all the answers, it’s not my job to save the world and that sometimes i just need to Let Go.

Moreover, i learn to look at people as they really are and not as i would want them to be, and i am careful not to project my neediness or insecurities onto a relationship. i learn that i will not be, more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable or important because of the man on my arm or the child that bearsmy name. I learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love and relationships and that that not everyone can always love me the way i would want them to. So i stop appraising my worth by the measure of love i have given. And suddenly i realize that it’s wrong to demand that someone live their life or sacrifice their dreams just to serve my needs, ease my insecurities, or meet “my” standards and expectations. i learn that the only love worth giving and receiving is the love that is given freely without conditions or limitations. And i learn what it means to love. So i stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. I learn that “alone” does not mean “lonely” and i begin to discover the joy of spending time “with myself” and “on myself.” Then i discover the greatest and most fulfilling love i will ever know. Self Love. And so, it comes to pass that through understanding my heart heals; and now all new things are possible.

Moving along, i begin to avoid Toxic people and conversations. And i stop wasting time and energy rehashing my situation with family and friends. I learn that talk doesn’t change things and that unrequited wishes can only serve to keep i trapped in the past. So, i stop lamenting over what could or should have been and i make a decision to leave the past behind. Then i begin to invest my time and energy to affect positive change. I take a personal inventory of all my strengths and weaknesses and the areas me need to improve in order to move ahead. I set my goals and map out a plan of action to see things through.

I learn that life isn’t always fair and i don’t always get what i think i deserve and i stop personalizing every loss or disappointment. I learn to accept that sometimes bad things happen to good people and that these things are not an act of God... but merely a random act of fate.

And I stop looking for guarantees because I’ve learned that the only thing i can really count on is the unexpected and that whatever happens, I’ll learn to deal with it. And i learn that the only thing i must truly fear is the great robber baron of all time FEAR itself. So i learn to step right into and through my fears because to give into fear is to give away the right to live life on my terms. I learn that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophesy and i learn to go after what i want and not to squander my life living under a cloud of indecision or feelings of impending doom.

Then, i learn about the money... the personal power and independence it brings and the options it creates. And i recognize the necessity to create my own personal wealth. Slowly, i begin to take responsibility for myself by myself and i make myself a promise to never betray myself and to never ever settle for less than my heart’s desire. Then a sense of power is born of self-reliance. And i live with honor and integrity because i know that these principles are not the outdated ideals of a by-gone era but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which i must build my life. And i make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting and to stay open to every wonderful opportunity and exciting possibility. Then i hang a wind chime outside my window to remind myself what beauty there is in Simplicity.

Finally, with courage in my heart and with mother by my side  take a stand, i take a deep breath and i begin to design the life i want to live as best as i can.

Prafulla....

At the river of Budapest, Hungery. The time made me feel how my thoughts take me to this path.......was a real awakening